Another Family Loss

As we welcomed in the New Year of 2018, I had all four of my immediate grandparents. All of which lived close, and with a breath of air in their lungs. It’s now five full months into the year, and I’m down by two.

My Dad’s parents were married for 60 years. They had 8 living children, and right around 100 grand and great-grand children to date. You’d be shocked at how close such a big family can actually be. We weave in and and out of one another’s lives regularly. We support each others children in sports and rodeo. And, we meet up for holidays every single year.

My grandma was the sweetest woman I’ve ever known. Always kind and patient. Her door was never locked. She took in any and everyone, held fond memories with each, and loved unconditionally. She passed away a few months ago. One of her biggest fears was to die alone. She drew her final breath in the comfort of her own home, with my Dad at her side (he was her live in caretaker at the time). He tucked a blanket around her, held her hand gently, and told her just how loved and appreciated she was in her final moments. It was peaceful, she left with all of her dignity in tact, as she earned in life.  I imagine her wings to be as pure as a dove. I wrote a poem at the time Silence, it was dedicated to her and placed on the back of the program at her funeral.

Late last night, her husband, my grandpa, also passed away. He’s suffered from dementia for years. The final stages have really taken their toll over the last nine months or so. Two days ago he was placed in the ICU with pneumonia, and a severe bodily infection… he was septic and extremely dehydrated. He had non-resuscitate/no life support agreements in place, and  before he lost coherence he told his children and the medical staff that he didn’t want any tubes down his throat to clear his lungs. He only wanted to be kept comfortable. He was ready to go, ready to be with his love. They complied, and he wound up joining the love of his life at 11:30 PM on 5/31/18.

He was a silly guy, always making people laugh, especially my grandma. He was a story teller and a dancer. That man could swing around the dance floor with the best of them.

They’ll both be sorely missed by our entire GIGANTIC family, as well as their tight-nit community. Loosing him has brought the loss of her back to the surface. Memories are front and center, hearts ache, and another long week of grief lays ahead. They spent practically their whole lives side by side, so it’s only fair that they do so in passing as well. They were the prime example of life long dedication. The kind of love that works past the ups and downs that life always has to offer. The kind that sticks together through thick and thin. They were true love and bringers of life at its finest.

R.I.P Farleys, we all love you dearly!

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Forever Beyond

A love that waits so patiently,

A life that lasts beyond,

A youth refined, the perfect form,

Once again in wanting arms.

Restored are you, and so is she,

No ailments to be known,

Together you smile, you laugh, you love,

Whole hearts, whole minds, you’re one.

The clouds do part, and so you see,

The wife who left before,

Her beauty at its finest,

She’s been waiting at your door.

Surrounded by her favorite colors,

Her in coral, you in blue,

Both angels now, together forever,

The adventures ahead anew.

Your feet are light, you spin and soon,

You dance in the sky with such grace,

Float weightless in her arms so sweet,

Your own music, smooth moves, your new space.

*Rest In Peace Grandpa Farley*

-Didi, and Family

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71 Comments Add yours

  1. So sorry for your loss.

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    1. Thank you. It’s a very hard time indeed.

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  2. This is a beautiful tribute to your loved ones. Thank you for being so open and sharing this with us. Holding your family in my prayers. ~ Blessings, KK

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words and support. It means the world.

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  3. Aww Didi! I’m so sorry! It’s never easy losing a grandparent. This is lovely though. Hugs!

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    1. Thank you Shan, it’s not easy at all. Knowing that they’re no longer in physical pain of any sort helps to bring comfort. They were a beautiful couple! XOXO

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  4. Frank Hubeny says:

    Sorry for your loss. Best wishes.

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  5. Didi r u alright? Im so sorry for your loss dear. I know how it feels i too have a grandmother i love her soo much and more than anything and anyone . Stay blessed dear. Everyone has to leave us one day . Its necessary for one soul to leave one body and to take new birth . I too have to and you too have to leave one day. 💜

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words and suport. I’m doing very well given the circumstances. May you have many more days with your sweet grandma, and cherish every one! *hugs*

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  6. Mischenko says:

    Didi, I was so sorry to read this. It’s so hard losing our loved ones. I have you and your family in my prayers. Such a beautiful post. Hugs ❤ XOXOXO

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    1. Thank you so much for your prayers, it means the world! 🤗🤗

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  7. I am so sorry for your loss Didi. However, your grandparents are reunited again with their love for one another. 🌼

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    1. They most certainly are. Thank you! ❤❤

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  8. I am really sorry for your loss, Didi. A beautiful poem and tribute.

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    1. Thank you Robbie, you support and condolences are very appreciated 🤗❤

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  9. Very sorry for your loss, Didi. They sound like wonderful people {{hugs}}

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    1. Oh, Jacquie they were the best! Thank you 😊

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  10. I’m sorry for your loss and I understand it, I had never felt so empty inside as when I lost my grandfather. But I promise you that everything will get better and they’ll always be taking care of you
    My best wishes

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    1. Isn’t it amazing how time heals the soul? I’m just grateful to have been blessed with such amazing people the time I had them. I’m sorry for your loss as well. ❤

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  11. Sending prayers for support and strength to your family, Didi. ❤

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    1. Thank you so much Felicia. *hugs*

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  12. I’m so sorry Didi. This really has been a tough year for you and your family. You’re all in my thoughts and prayers.

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    1. Thank you so much, Kim! Your continued support and compassion is more helpful than you know… through everything!!! XOXO

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  13. I’m so sorry for your loss, my friend. *Hugs*

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    1. Thank you Dani, your love and support is cherished! XOXO

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      1. Always, my friend!💙💚💙💚

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  14. Sorry to see Didi. Chin up as you never lose what they gave you. 🙂

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    1. Thank you Benedict. They both gave so much love and so many memories! ❤

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  15. The Owl Lady says:

    Sorry for your loss, Didi. Sending love and prayers. @v@ ❤

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    1. Your love and prayers are much appreciated 🤗

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  16. Sorry to hear of your bereavements. So close together, harder to bear, but you clearly have very fond memories.

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    1. Thank you so much Dave! And, yes very very fond memories. 🙂

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  17. Bindu says:

    Sorry for your loss. The presence of grandparents and parents makes a sea change to your life and living. I miss the presence of all of them, each day, every day. So totally know what you mean.

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    1. You’re so right. I’m sorry for your loss as well my friend. May they all rest in peace 🙂

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      1. Bindu says:

        Thanks dear

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  18. itzeyblog says:

    Lovely tribute to lives well loved and lived.

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  19. I just recently lost my last grandparent in January. It was so difficult and it continues to be. I would like to offer you another poem that was read at her funeral. It’s call Dash Poem by Linda Ellis. It has really helped me cope with her loss.

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    1. Thank you so much. This is beautiful. I’m sorry for your loss as well. It never gets easier.

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  20. I am so sorry for your loss! Michael

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    1. Thank you, Michael! It means the world. 🙂

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      1. Thank you too Didi! Its always very sad to loose someone. But we can trust they all will be in heaven. Michael

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      2. I couldn’t agree with you more, my friend! 🙂

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  21. Sending positive thoughts to you and your family! ❤

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    1. Thank you very much for the condolence.! 🙂

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  22. Your obituary is so full of love and warmhearted. ❤ I'm sure your grandparents are now reunited. ❤

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    1. Oh yes, I imagine them dancing now…. or playing cards lol 🙂

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    1. Thank you. Your sympathy is very much appreciated.

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  23. Laura Beth says:

    Sending love and prayers to you and your entire family. I was fortunate enough to have all four of my grandparents until I was 20. My dad’s dad is the remainder – He’s 92!

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    1. Isn’t it nice to enjoy them for so long! I’m 32 now and was so fortunate to have them for so long. My other set aren’t far behind, at least not my grandpa anyway, and his passing will be devastating. He’s such an amazing guy!

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  24. lisarey1990 says:

    Very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you at this very sad time. A very beautiful tribute.

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  25. MG WELLS says:

    Blessings to you. Thanks for sharing and wishing you a fabulous weekend.

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  26. gc says:

    My hearty condolences on your tragic loss. May God bless you and help you to gain strength and insight into the days ahead. Personal losses are always tragic.

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    1. Thank you so much for the condolences!

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  28. So sorry for your loss

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    1. Thank you dearly for your condolences.

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  29. Oh wow. I’m so sorry for your double loss! That poem is a beautiful tribute to them 💜

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    1. Thank you so much for the condolences, and the kind words. It’s been a rough year for my family, so all of the love is dearly appreciated.

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  30. Jessie Ruka says:

    That was beautiful, I send my condolences and hope that in time you and your family can find peace through this tough time

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    1. Thank you so much! *hugs*

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